When you start dating online you’ll quickly realise how important your opening message is. You can have the perfect photo and a witty, engaging profile but if you don’t get your opening message right you’ll find you won’t be getting many responses.
As a side note, the very worst thing you can say in a first message is “Hi” and nothing else. Avoid this at all costs. Would you reply to a message that lazy? Probably not… You want to stand out from the crowd and sending a boring opening message is a sure-fire way to not stand out at all.
Here are some of our best conversation starters for online dating.
What would be your perfect first date?
This is a great opener as it prompts a reply. It is an easy question to answer but also one that can be elaborated on a lot. Questions are always going to be important in a first message as it shows that you want to engage in a two-way conversation.
Ask a question about their profile
If they say in their profile that their favourite hobby is sky-diving, ask them about this. When did they last go sky-diving? What do they like about it? If it’s a hobby you have too, mention this but don’t make the whole message about you. Be sure to ask a question to encourage them to reply.
If you were given 3 wishes, what would they be?
This is a fun way of getting to know someone better. It’s also fun to reply to which means you’re more likely to get a response. Think about what your wishes would be too as they’ll likely come back at you with the same question. When they reply, ask them follow-up questions about their answers.
Are you good at keeping secrets?
Has a question ever been more mysterious and exciting than this? This question is great as it suggests that you may have some juice gossip for them but it also gives them a chance to let you know what they are really like.
These are just a few of our conversation starters for online dating but we know there are loads more. What are your favourite openers? Let us know in the comments.
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The Single Over 60s Team